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Replying to Avatar Lyn Alden

Losing someone young, or losing an older person while you are young, is always hard.

When my father passed away from cancer while I was in my early twenties, it wasn't surprising at all. This fact had been coming for two years, slowly. But when it came, it hurt just as bad. And till this day it still hurts.

I was at work and got a call; it was a hospital. They said my father had been suddenly transferred to hospice, and it wasn't looking good. He probably had a week at most. He was in another state. The doctor transferred my father to me on the phone and my father was weakly like, "hey...." and I said hello, and I said I'm coming now. He said, "No don't... uhh.... don't worry... you are far and have work... I'm fine...." I asked then why was he transferred to hospice if things were fine. He was like, "uh well... well you know.... uh.... it's fine...." And I was like, "holy shit I'm coming right now."

So I went to my boss and looked at him. I had previously told him that there might be a moment where I would have to just immediately leave without notice, no matter how important the meetings and such, because of my father. So in this moment I literally just looked at him in the middle of a busy day and was like, "I gotta go" and he was like "of course". So I drove there, two hours away and went straight there. My father weakly said on the phone not to go, but he never sounded like that, so I went immediately.

I got there, and my father was in a hospital in the death ward, and the guy who greeted me was a pastor rather than a nurse, which was not a great sign. I asked what was going on and he told me straight up that this was not good, that my father was likely dying within a week. So he brings me to my father. My father is barely awake. His memories and statements are all over the place, but I just hold his hand and tell him that it's fine and I love him. I'm just there. He kept fading out and I was like, "it's okay, just relax". He could see me and talk in a rough sentence or two and thanked me for coming, but started to fade away.

And then after like 30 minutes, he went fully unconscious. He was still roughly gripping and shaking the bed headboard and so forth but wasn't conscious (and I was like, "Are you all giving him the right pain medicines, this doesn't look good", and even the pastor was like, "yes I have seen many and this is not comfortable" and I was like an angry 23-year-old so I went out in the center area like, "what do all of you even fucking do here?! He is shaking the bedframe and looks in pain, and even the pastor agrees. Holy shit." So I went and got medical attention to deal with this, but felt slow and ineffective at this. They gave him more morphine and it calmed him down, but while it relaxed him, he ultimately didn't wake up again.

I spent the next couple hours there, and then left and called various family members for my second round when he was unmoving. I said if they want to see him, come now, in the next day or two.

But a little while later after I left, I got a call and was told he had died. Only I (and the nurses) saw him while he was still briefly conscious.

During that call itself, I was stoic. I was like, "Yes, I understand. Okay." and then hung up. And then I sat there for like five minutes in silence... and then cried. I got over it quickly and we did the funeral in the following days. My father had been struggling with cancer for years, so this wasn't fully surprising.

But what lingered was the memory. It has been 13 years now, and yet whenever I am in my depths I still think of my father. The memory never gets weaker. I think of his love, or I think of how attentive he was, or how accepting he was, or what he would say about my current problems.

People we love, live on through us. We remember them so vividly, and we are inspired by them.

If he was a lame father, he wouldn't have so many direct memories 13 years later. But because he was a good and close father, he does.

All of those memories are gifts. All of them are ways of keeping aspects of that person alive in our world. It's how we remember them in the decades that follow. Their victories, their losses, and everything in between. Virtues they quietly did that you find out later. Virtues you realize only in hindsight how big they were.

Thank you for sharing it, Lyn! 🧡🙏💜

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It’s a pleasure! Thank you for your book! It’s beautifully simple! 💜🧡💜

This is something I forgot to mention… thank you for the question.

Keet is amazing for that because, being 100% peer to peer, it does not need any servers to send information and so there is not any cap on the files size! You can send huge files to everyone directly from your computer to their computer, always E2EE! Logically it depends on your and their connection speed / reliability… and it is important that both are online so it works better. Moreover there is not any algorithmic compression so, for example, pictures are sent as they are, while on 99% of the communication apps they are compressed before sending with loss of quality.

On SimpleX, I do not remember if there is a size cap at the moment but they are working on a way to send big files easily without people been online simultaneously and without compromising too much on P2P.

Let’s say that Keet is 100% P2P without compromises and for this reason it can be a bit more clunky sometimes, while SimpleX is using some compromises on the P2P model.

I personally use both. SimpleX more for chatting especially with people I do not know and Keet more for calls, desktop sharing and file sending with people I know.

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I like and I use both of them.

Both are peer to peer but Keet is completely peer to peer so a bit more difficult to implement for the developers and to make it work on every networks while SimpleX has some dumb servers to relay messages to users so technically not completely peer to peer.

SimpleX has the option to create a new random account every time you connect to a new person.

Keet alpha had a lot of issues when connecting with people under networks that are not P2P friendly, but the new Keet beta (v.2) works very well and I’m using it daily also for my calls on my laptop!

Privacy wise, they are both E2EE. SimpleX servers can see your IP address while the person you are chatting with on Keet, that is purely P2P, can technically see your IP. In both cases, better to use a VPN.

SimpleX has the option to be used with Tor and also has the option for disappearing messages after a certain amount of time.

Many new features are coming on Keet in the next weeks.

Finally, Keet is not yet open source but it will be on February 2024 when the developers will also present and make open source the entire Holepunch 🕳️ 🥊 platform (the one used also for Keet) to easily develop fully peer to peer applications! They have the claim that Holepunch can make everything peer to peer.

Hope this helps a bit! 💜

Let me know if you want to connect with me on Keet or SimpleX! 😉

It’s working… it’s not working perfectly because it depends on your network if it is P2P friendly or not… but it works… messages arrive even if sometime they take a while especially when you open the app… worth trying it! :)

The beta version (v.2) is working pretty well both on desktop and mobile and many other features are coming…

If I’m not mistaken, they should make the whole holepunch platform open source in February 2024!

Milei! 🇦🇷

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