I hope everyone is continuing to fund improvements!

#grownostr #damus #purple

Good morning. #nature #photography

Fireship coming out with his usual wit and humor.

https://youtu.be/AdygBbbEnco?si=ASBrwUpin4Mnih6e

Red is sexy, negative is just cool though. 😎

I’m not sorry but protecting and providing for my wife is the bare minimum. My value as a man doesn’t come from it - my being a man does.

My value comes from everything after that.

Men exist to serve.

Boys exist to be served.

I’m not anti-opinion. Just the over sharing of them, and the holding onto them as though they were facts.

Opinions are useful abstractions for us to deal with things in our world that we do not fully understand. They also allow us to find meaning in the unexplained (like religion/faith).

But just like religion, the over sharing of opinions can be a hindrance to conversation, and even drive others away.

Depends on the boob for me, but there are epic moments from both angles. 😀

I still don’t understand why this is good. I’ll just be muting a lot more often. nostr:note1emq5z2agsdqzhztd4t8k9wvjh7nzm7dtype5herygf8dran86fpsm39ncs

Ok. In that regard I can weigh in and say that I self-censor not to be nice, but I 💯% censor because nobody listens so I gave up.

Opinions are like assholes.

- Everyone has one

- Most of them stink

- You probably shouldn’t pay too close attention to someone else’s

- Some class should probably be used in deciding who to show yours to

- When your opinions get fucked it can hurt

- Opinions are the source of most of the shit in the world

Define self-censoring Laesarin. There are tons of things that go through my head that I don’t say, both online and in the real world. Because I want to be nice. Because what we do is what makes us nice or not nice.

I see lots of room for this statement to be misinterpreted.

It’s also funny how much time is spent on theoretical problems that nobody has.

That’ll tell em. nostr:note135ls0egavexx6nx72wkm4qc9e8vp0xdmrajtwmh0gvjm8m4lkzrsqq8qjn

Teaching sand to think was a mistake.

This is why you shouldn’t connect your device to untrusted WiFi, rogue DHCP server detection exists for networks, and if you’re at risk for targeted attack, you really shouldn’t be carrying a smartphone at all.

The only thing private is what’s in your head (for now).

Still served a similar purpose too, as the dowry was a way to attract a “higher quality” mate. It also meant the bride’s family was picky about who she courted.

That is unfortunate. It would be great to see humans achieve a balanced a fair solution to this - although it’d be even better to see both men and women treat each other well enough it was a non-issue. But that’s just me being a dreamer.

That makes sense. I figured a cultural difference had to be at play. In the states I’m noticing a huge movement of men who have no interest in getting married because the woman can leave at any given point (and do in much higher numbers than the men) and basically bankrupt the men, along with depriving them of their children.

I’m not saying we don’t have bastards here that women need to be able to escape from, just that the pendulum seems to have swung a different direction here, which has caused that same skepticism on the other gender’s behalf.

As a side note, my wife’s desire to be a house wife was a pretty big part of my decision to propose. Her assistance at home unlocked a ton of freedom and even financial possibility for us.

There is more than one way to make sure a woman isn’t trapped. It was my initiative to make sure the land was jointly held, that she had access to the same accounts I did, and to make sure she stayed (geographically) close to her own family and was in regular contact with them. (Means and a place to go is essential to any woman attempting to escape an abusive situation) I would encourage any young woman to seek a man that does the same - and to consider the opposite a huge red flag.

It’s a comfort to me that she’s set up this way, as it removes a temptation to get away with any misbehavior or taking for granted - as I don’t have to worry about feeling like I could get away with it. If that makes any sense.

This is interesting Laesarin. Most men consider marriage to be a huge financial risk right now due to alimony and child support, and they very often get shafted on custody of their own children.

How do you think this squares up with the ideas discussed here? There seems to be a deep suspicion on both sides of this equation.

I couldn’t ever forget that. How else do people control recoil?