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Dear Lettuce Hands,

Thanks.

Sincerely,

Diamond Hands

That’s a Wences Casares company. He’s a Bitcoin OG. Due to his family history in Argentina, his focus has always been on inflation protection and separating money from State control.

Clients can rely on Xapo for storing funds and creating a secure system accessible only to valid account holders — articles have been written about underground vaults, and armed guards protecting offline servers and cold storage, etc.

Note, however, that pseudonymity and privacy are not his main focus. So if you are looking for a non-KYC option, this isn’t it.

Replying to Avatar rabble

HI've noticed on Threads, Bluesky, and even some apps here on Nostr that I’m shown a lot more content from people I’m not following. This is often due to reposts, quote posts, or just the algorithms at work. While this content can be engaging and spark conversations, it’s often not healthy.

I see people posting obviously or maybe obliviously wrong things, which then get corrected and boosted, creating a vicious cycle. For example, someone mentioned considering a hyphenated name for their kids. I shared how my hyphenated name caused issues with computers, especially with international travel. This led to many calling me a bigot because the original poster was a queer woman. It’s odd because I’m queer myself, but it seems they felt an amab queer shouldn’t share personal experiences directly related to the topic.

I also saw clickbait articles about triathletes vomiting at the end of an Olympic triathlon, blaming it on a polluted river. Yes, the river is polluted, but triathletes often throw up at the end of races, and the swim was two hours before the nausea hit.

These issues occurred on Twitter too, but I didn’t experience it the same way there. I used Twitter daily from the moment Jack invited me and our coworkers onto the service, and for me, the conversations were healthier. I understand that many others had negative experiences, though.

On Nostr, I see zaps often rewarding hot takes and posts that signal membership in one group or another. This seems to exacerbate the issue, as people are incentivized to make posts that cater to specific in-groups rather than fostering genuine dialogue.

My worry is that maybe we’re actually doing worse with the new platforms. Is this something other people are seeing? How do we navigate this and foster healthier online conversations?

I agree that it comes down to incentives, as you point out.

Whether it’s a misinterpretation (intentional or not), or an entitled/inflated pancakes v. waffles outrage, or an a attempt at a witty dunk on a perceived enemy to score points, or a pandering to one’s follower set to maintain loyalty, or imposing/expressing an authoritative opinion outside of one’s expertise to increase an audience or relevance…

All of these are driven by an incentive to be seen, feel validated, or get paid. I think it comes down to culture. Note, for example, how Tumblr used to have a unique audience and content creation. It was different than MySpace or Facebook. Some of that had to do with how these platforms were built and how user interactions were displayed. Some of it was how the content, itself, was consumed by users. Note that many areas of Reddit (at the time of writing) still have a playful sense of humor, and supportive community, while X is broadly a cesspool of insults and hatred. Why? Is it just because the Mods make it so? Is it the ability to downvote?

Seems like there’s an opportunity for a Reddit-like Nostr alternative. Mods wouldn’t be able to remove content from relays of course, but it would be nice to have a community that wasn’t permissioned and publicly traded, with all the incentives that come with *that*.

TL;DR build better communities by supporting others with thoughtful interactions and disincentivize trolls (somehow).

Yes, that’s another great meditation technique for sure, but not the one I’m advocating for in this post. This post is an intermediate exercise for people who can’t get there as easily as you.

Rather, in *this* exercise, the goal is to bring your focus directly onto the thinking process itself, examining it in the moment that it arises. The next step, which I didn’t write (because I didn’t want to write too much this morning), is to draw your attention sharply on onto the thought and then momentarily turn your attention onto the source of the thinking, if you can find one.

Is there a source, or is there just an experience of thinking? If you think you found a source, isn’t that just another creation of your thoughts? There’s actually nothing there.

By bringing your focus directly onto thoughts, you watch them unravel into nothing. Metaphorically, thoughts are just the running programs of your body-mind’s operating system.

The idea here is to see, first hand, that the mind is just a functioning organ like any other. The liver makes bile, the body-mind makes thoughts. Acknowledge this, and you don’t need to take them as seriously. You don’t need to indulge them. They aren’t necessarily real or true. They are just a process and you are experiencing them.

Often people have difficulty meditating because they find themselves “lost in thought.”

First, realize that the very act of noticing that you are lost in thought is literally the first step to coming back to the present moment. Noticing that you are caught up in thinking is not a sign of failure; it’s the opposite.

Second, here’s a strategy you can try: close your eyes, let your body relax into a cloud of sensations, and listen to whatever sounds you hear. You cannot fail to hear them. You simply notice whatever you notice.

The same is true for thoughts. The simply arise out of nowhere.

Now…attempt to notice your next thought AS SOON AS IT ARISES. Be alert. Remain vigilant.

Thoughts will generate, that’s out of your control, but you can surf the wave of the ocean of thoughts, riding in front of them, rather than drowning in the turbulent swash after the wave has crashed against the shore.

#Meditate

#MeditationTips

First time I flew into NYC, I saw this view and I *knew* it would be my destiny. The following year, I moved and spent 8 years in MH.

Amazing city.

Replying to Avatar Lyn Alden

I've had a similar outcome as mandrik, but with a somewhat different context. It's something I still think about a lot.

When I was an engineer/manager, I worked in person, and had a great social group there. After I left it, I became inherently remote-work based in my home office, which has a lot of advantages but also some social isolation-related challenges.

I then gradually drifted away from work-friends I knew for a decade. Between work and family, we just gradually could barely find time for a group lunch anymore. Actually it was more on their side than mine; they have longer commutes, children, etc.

And my US family is small and dispersed around the country. So aside from my husband, a lot of my social interaction is online and at events within the past few post-covid years. The big exception is the part of the year I spend in Egypt, where I am surrounded by in-person family and friends every day, but have less overall productivity (bad internet for starters, problematic time zone, plus it's also vacation time and social time).

And the most notable part of each year is when I come back to the US first to take care of things here, and my husband is still in Egypt for another month to finish taking care of things there, where I risk turning into a solo cat lady.

So that makes me really focus on genuine internet dynamics, treating people online similarly to how I treat them in real life, building real connections there, going to events to meet my "tribe" despite the travel hassle, etc.

It also has prioritized having children to me recently. I've been focusing on work, focusing on elder care, etc. Due to my starting point, I have been in the position of having to support a parent and then in-laws since my 20s, while also being a workaholic to reach the positions I've gotten to. For years I was simply too busy for anything else, but increasingly the next generation is an element of life I think about a lot.

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Like I was just saying:

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