or how about you work up some courage to have a word. i'm ready.

i think you're making a serious mistake by blocking ne and the users of berserker.town. go and think about that a little.

checking back on Tinder, this is what met me

i sent one message to one girl

i asked her what is the name of her dog

response from Tinder:

i find that when i can have a word in DM with a fedi admin, they get me. i cannot personally have a word with everyone.

i spent hours on a Tinder account

now it tells me i have no account

this is much like my experience with Mastodon

i am genuine

they eliminate spam and trolls

i am genuine

i am here every day being my true self and the idiots don't know a mensch from an idiot.

nostr:npub15crs2zc75dzh4yask7dwt604nh20n3zp2caclm7lw5cxa9hafkfsnnlew0 nostr:npub1zx4nsay889fcjrlk0zmpywe9y7pz6fflphwdcyzkjad4hmyk09asw6s6fq kiss

nostr:npub1zx4nsay889fcjrlk0zmpywe9y7pz6fflphwdcyzkjad4hmyk09asw6s6fq if the concern here is not reporoduction, then perhaps we see more eye to eye.

nostr:npub1zx4nsay889fcjrlk0zmpywe9y7pz6fflphwdcyzkjad4hmyk09asw6s6fq i will not bend over backwards just to have a woman, or even a friend. i have time.

nostr:npub1zx4nsay889fcjrlk0zmpywe9y7pz6fflphwdcyzkjad4hmyk09asw6s6fq the primary concern for me is not reproduction. okay, yes, having kids, i'm open to it. but.

BUT.

nostr:npub1zx4nsay889fcjrlk0zmpywe9y7pz6fflphwdcyzkjad4hmyk09asw6s6fq i'm 40 and i don't have kids. i know some guys who compromised more there. they're struggling now.

in a weird way, my kink is: if you were so tired that you forgot to shower and you've got rings under your eyes, we have passionate sex anyway, and so what?

and the next morning, she asks what i want for breakfast. okay, i love that.

bluntly speaking, i'm not really concerned if your tits are perky or your bank account looks good.

i have *some* beauty standards. but "average" is enough. beyond that, i have other concerns.

i like bringing people closer together

i'm like Nokia

connecting people

nostr:npub1ecj3mfr9lzvx7wh6fmh59vz6eet324mdtdlp9qxzqvwuvpglwnxqv6fchy nostr:npub1qu94at2mgjfrxz6h4n2lfq5v39pj7q7nkdvp908tnj77fuya3a0qrgwkf7 how about you control this into some DMs.

what do i know? i'm just a guy on the internet.

talk.

nostr:npub1ecj3mfr9lzvx7wh6fmh59vz6eet324mdtdlp9qxzqvwuvpglwnxqv6fchy nostr:npub1qu94at2mgjfrxz6h4n2lfq5v39pj7q7nkdvp908tnj77fuya3a0qrgwkf7 so you're both control freaks then

nostr:npub1ecj3mfr9lzvx7wh6fmh59vz6eet324mdtdlp9qxzqvwuvpglwnxqv6fchy nostr:npub1qu94at2mgjfrxz6h4n2lfq5v39pj7q7nkdvp908tnj77fuya3a0qrgwkf7

nostr:npub1ecj3mfr9lzvx7wh6fmh59vz6eet324mdtdlp9qxzqvwuvpglwnxqv6fchy nostr:npub1qu94at2mgjfrxz6h4n2lfq5v39pj7q7nkdvp908tnj77fuya3a0qrgwkf7 have you two tried kissing

had the weekly lunch with the friend. they're making apps where he works and he wanted to discuss some concepts. the girl i dated was also discussed.

being the one who breaks up gives you a different perspective, he said, because you realise people can break up with you even if they have feelings for you and think you're worth something.

that was very much the case for this girl.

nostr:npub1qu94at2mgjfrxz6h4n2lfq5v39pj7q7nkdvp908tnj77fuya3a0qrgwkf7 not exactly my area of expertise but i'm picking up a lot of the same fragrances across them

nostr:npub1ecj3mfr9lzvx7wh6fmh59vz6eet324mdtdlp9qxzqvwuvpglwnxqv6fchy i think you're generalising a lot here - to me, this sounds like blue collar or medical

never admitting mistakes is bad but so is always assuming you're wrong. there's a balance to strike there, because if you're too inflexible, you're not learning, but if you're too flexible, you'll bend over backwards for people and won't have a personality of your own.

i think one thing young people do a lot is concern themselves with details and getting them right, because you have to learn the rules before you can learn how to break them. so they're afraid of standing out and they react negatively to anyone their own age who does.

as you mature, the details become less important. or should become less important anyway. some people never get over that stage and remain permanently obsessed with them, and having everything in order becomes their idea of maturity.

nostr:npub1gnxcgfn80yk2dgkdq6luj4p9cemajz85flcuxrkudlyn7pgya7jq3twfgl that's interesting because i abandoned that job and it looks like i'm heading into education

90% of people you find in dating sites have physical activity as their main interest. people really love that stuff. i'm a bit more indoorsy i admit.

nostr:npub16qct6ge6zdr72yxrw2cc0rsqyp9j9qrjs9pkz3gkydc839jrtk5sj8al6e okay, i was just curious

nostr:npub16qct6ge6zdr72yxrw2cc0rsqyp9j9qrjs9pkz3gkydc839jrtk5sj8al6e i know what it means but why the reaction

nostr:npub16qct6ge6zdr72yxrw2cc0rsqyp9j9qrjs9pkz3gkydc839jrtk5sj8al6e why "🤯"?

nostr:npub16qct6ge6zdr72yxrw2cc0rsqyp9j9qrjs9pkz3gkydc839jrtk5sj8al6e sorry, what did you reply to? i was just deleting a message to repost. was it the encyclopaedia one?

the girl i broke up with called me an encyclopaedia. the thing about encyclopaedias is that they don't perform much work. they just sit there and compile knowledge so others can access it quickly.

it would have been funny if she had nicknamed me Wikipedia.

the above post almost reads like a love song

our last date wasn't really a date, but a meeting where we broke up. we didn't even kiss. we just hugged for a short time.

she gave me a perfume called Golddigger.

i don't have money and she knows that, and i wasn't digging for her gold.

she also doesn't know much English slang and isn't the type to say things indirectly, so it probably didn't mean anything.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vm2pvpmnyvw

this is about the difficulty of matchmaking in multiplayer video games, but it feels like it also applies to dating.

yes, maybe i could learn more about communicating with sensible types. they're the most common kind of human. but it's hard. that's always been hard for me.

Sanskrit is a language from India

a lot of words in Europe are found in it

sam- or sammen in the Scandi langs means "together"

skrift means "writing"

samskrift = written together, collected writings

i believe "Sanskrit" essentially means "written together".

so, Sanskrit is samskrift.

also, "sann" means true.

so "Sanskrit" might alternatively mean "true writing".

the girl i'm dating is teaching me some kind of lesson about life

intentionally or unintentionally

not really that important

i know that if i'm struggling and i'm frustrated, this means i'm learning something, whether i like it or not.