at this rate, i'll get a date quicker if i make my OWN damned dating site.

i remember a song but i don't know the name.

nostr:npub1jdnjk3rursksr6s6sc4wdst4ag9sf9fvrnqc7f5mfsegps07gh2q42ycw3 these two dance a bit too good for me

https://youtu.be/wefHmxdy5t0

but moving feet like that looks like fun

i'm very very lazy but i think i could be decent at tango

nostr:npub1g09t6ap8ctghvq6eq750cf0vz09943mrllj7jrxgjnkq8g3sqgxsy2pug6 får se om hun har noe rytme også kanskje

prøver litt gærne ting med jenter nå, så får det gå som det går.

for the moment, i think i need a girlfriend. can i explain why? not really.

so why doesn't Thor go out a little, if he wants a girlfriend?

thing is i do. not producing much in terms of results, and i'm 40 now. so you might say i'm getting a little impatient.

that's a small part of the issue. bigger issue is that i wonder if i should just die or something. maybe i'm not for this planet.

i'm only going to take your advice half seriously if you're not currently in a relationship yourself.

people say a lot of stuff that relies on their circumstances and if yours are not the same as mine, or close to it, what you say isn't very useful.

you must at least have had some pretty recent experience with the simlilar circumstances as mine before i'll take you seriously.

it's not so much about the logical argument but about providing evidence. this is likely to require some time or money.

i'm only going to take your advice half seriously if you're in a relationship

people say a lot of stuff that relies on their circumstances and if yours are not the same as mine, or close to it, what you say isn't very useful.

you must at least have had some pretty recent experience with the same circumstances before i'll take you seriously.

i'm only going to take your advice half seriously if you're in a relationship

people say a lot of stuff that relies on their circumstances and if yours are not the same, what they say isn't very useful.

to get more concrete,

the way she looked at me when she was happy, confident and in the mood

that she cooked an omelette for me in the morning whenever i stayed over

that she came to my place despite being terrified of cats.

that sort of information doesn't really come from dating sites.

nostr:npub1ts6scjd8tllejwne53tdgu6fs8uy8zkume9j6c99pkdsjc7gpzhssy9ccq that is a very good question because i kind of see a little bit of myself in every character

hm, you know, the primary concern isn't so much "how interesting are you?" as most dating sites frame it

more about "how interesting is our time together?"

this isn't so easy to predict.

nostr:npub1ts6scjd8tllejwne53tdgu6fs8uy8zkume9j6c99pkdsjc7gpzhssy9ccq oh what i mean is that Tinder will occasionally match me with people from there, like thousands of miles away

nostr:npub1ts6scjd8tllejwne53tdgu6fs8uy8zkume9j6c99pkdsjc7gpzhssy9ccq i match fairly quickly with Thai girls but it's a little too close to sex trafficking for my comfort

nostr:npub1ts6scjd8tllejwne53tdgu6fs8uy8zkume9j6c99pkdsjc7gpzhssy9ccq every single girl i got laid with, i met online.

nostr:npub1ts6scjd8tllejwne53tdgu6fs8uy8zkume9j6c99pkdsjc7gpzhssy9ccq i do from time to time. nothing ever comes out of that.

nostr:npub1gnxcgfn80yk2dgkdq6luj4p9cemajz85flcuxrkudlyn7pgya7jq3twfgl i've had a lot more success gaining any kind of following online in English. but we're like 5 million people here and there are a bajillion English speakers. maybe i'm just a bit hard to like.

i've got a dad bod but i'm also 6'4" tall, so when i sleep with girls, they're kind of into that. big man clasping her tight. kind of hard to show off on a dating site.

nostr:npub1k0njx7ysl6a8d36aa0nqg56j5xn9pxxrc9m3573z4al69pq55ezq7ccqxm nostr:npub1hxrkhevulawfcff00pr5hhnyrmyu3098awjmld78ldr3jwa94ttq8ye73m if you don't, i will sit on you.

nostr:npub1ts6scjd8tllejwne53tdgu6fs8uy8zkume9j6c99pkdsjc7gpzhssy9ccq this strikes me as a bit violent

i said wanted Violet, not violence 😫

nostr:npub1hxrkhevulawfcff00pr5hhnyrmyu3098awjmld78ldr3jwa94ttq8ye73m if they have serious objections to it, they're probably not laughing

if she's a bit fat, this merely means her words will carry more weight in a discussion

in a different world, "theoretical physicist" could refer to someone who has a lot of ideas about getting physical but never does it

nostr:npub1j3tkwq3jlf9z4tdcuk8n0ywaaqqyfeydu62rp7kfwxl5ne20rksqwdfrnv as a kid i used to hang out in that place and since they had recently upgraded to a DTP process, all the old stuff was there for me to play with, so i'd try to paste together my own newspaper pages

so i was googling how/if personality types and the kind of sex they have are connected. highly controversial. some people saw clear connections while others dismissed the question as ridiculous.

i was wondering about it because i've noticed that my mind has to be in the right place. the physical part has an effect but it isn't enough. and it's a mind space that's challenging to stay in, especially when you're with someone new.

i stop to notice to what's going on, which isn't great for concentration. for an experience like that, you kind of have to lose yourself in it and be a little selfish almost.

i get the impression that some people have a much easier time with this. they don't overthink it. difficult for someone whose entire nature is to examine everything.

none of these translate the sense of søkende that i'm looking for.

the basic meaning is seeker or seeking.

the sense i'm looking for is probably closer to inquisitive, curious, but the word also carries a connotation of emotion, because what is sought is meaning.

can you call people seekers in English, in the sense that they're always looking for meaning?

i'm emitting a different energy right now, i think. Blizzard (my ragdoll cat) is staying extra close to me. he slept in my arm earlier. he usually doesn't do that.

obsessions are one thing i always found very difficult to manage or control. pretty strong force in me.

these dating apps appear to learn quite slowly about what you actually like. they need more data than i would have expected, because i'm detecting a slow improvement in the match quality.

the electrician thought i should do a YouTube channel about Linux and RPi and stuff. to him, being fluent in this stuff is a rare skill. he kind of sat there with his mouth agape the entire time because i was typing all these Linux commands rapidly, from memory. he was also surprised when a desktop environment came up on the RPi. he hadn't quite realised that it's just a little computer. he seems intelligent enough and says he's been playing with Arduino. but it's just that he probably wasn't exposed to all this stuff at an early age like i was. i don't think my skills are so rare. lots of people in the IT industry know how to do this stuff.

nostr:npub1adrmq8c9dpa0jvsdcmcclyqpz87hthcffkka5n7nncff7jlmr4fq4kys3z yeah, it is pretty thankless work - engineering in general - because no one cares unless it's broken

helping someone fix something - RPi based thing that automates table calling over a restaurant PA

another Nebula-type site has emerged, for history nerds:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=emJrnfIjkAc

more and more YouTubers are leaving for independent streaming platforms.

André Franquin's art style is one i grew up with in comic books like Spirou, Gaston and Marsupilami, but today it looks dated, and only older cartoonists draw in that way.