"Yesterday, during a heartfelt conversation with my brother, he expressed concern that I may be losing myself —a state in which he's never seen me before— because of trying to see the good in others.

The thing is that, sometimes our best selves get buried under life events and circumstances that take over our mind and body, and even though there are occasions in which we may stop those things from happening, others it occurs so subtly overtime, that we don't even realize what's going on until is too late - like in trauma bond.

The reason why I'm writing this is to reflect on the fact that despite it all, through these experiences, I've also understood I've made many mistakes myself, I've seen sides of me that I never saw before, I've acknowledged toxic traits that I'm committed to erase for good and I've (hopefully) learnt the importance of being vigilant against similar pitfalls in the future.

So, addressing my brother's concerns, there are ups and downs but I try to remind myself daily that I have the resilience to sail the many waves ahead, although sometimes is hard to believe. However, while I value the positive characteristics that make me who I am, I also don't strive to be the exact person I was before life happened.

Every best version of ourselves will always be just one more step towards the next best, but the path is not always direct stairs up - it may be more of a roller coaster full of really good and not so good experiences, learning and unlearning...

All this to say, whatever happens in life, I hope you can prioritize your mental and emotional well-being, and always embrace the lessons that come along the way, without losing yourself.

Maktüb."

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