Filter.nostr.wine is not an inbox relay. The rest seems fine.
I would add another DM inbox relay to avoid relying on just one.
If you are using Amethyst, you will need to setup your preferred Indexer relays. Click the Default button if you don't have an opinion about it and just want something that works.
On Amethyst, you put filter on a proxy or broadcasting relay list, since it is not designed for others to use. Filter is just for you and your client. It shouldn't be on any list that others use to talk to you, like outbox and inbox.
Yes, but I haven’t yet seen a way to have your relay lists continue to work with Damus or other single relay list clients. I’m still stuck in the same boat.
Maybe there should be an app that will automatically optimize your relays for you so they’ll work with the maximum number of clients despite all their bizarre incompatibilities.
