They conflated gender and masculine/feminine (on purpose). Masculinity and femininity exist on a spectrum. Gender does not. I think our piss-poor handling of rights of passage also helped prepare the ground and enabling failure to launch, “you think this 42year old living in his mother’s basement is a man?” It’s tempting to say he isn’t when in fact he is, he’s just doing a crappy job at it, he’s a crappy man.