In lightning you get as much privacy as you want. I don't care what others want. If I was a dealer, I don't care about sender's privacy, that's their thing. I care about mine.

In Monero, practical privacy is difficult simply because of smaller network effect. I have privacy in many of my purchases because of lightning, which I wouldn't otherwise had, because they don't accept Monero. The size of network determines the overall privacy you get in your life. Cash+lightning is pretty good coverage of most of my purchases.