Am former SWATie and military. I gifted .380s to wifey and daughter in law. You’d do fine with most of the larger brands but look for something compact and concealable that fits your hand. Absolutely most important without question is to put rounds downrange, lots of rounds. You have to become comfortable and confident not only with squeezing rounds but with carrying, drawing, aiming and shooting under stress. I mean literally walking around the house with it on your person (unloaded) and practicing ‘draw-aim-squeeze’ until it becomes muscle memory. Carnegie Hall shit. Anything less, you’re at risk of either not acting safely or getting it taken away in a real situation.

Second most important is clean and maintain meticulously so it works when you need.

Pick one up next time you’re in Texas, am always glad to teach at our little ranch south of San Antonio.