You say you are a progressive? Consent is one of the most important principles most progressives share. So if someone is acting against my consent he or she abuses my right to integrity.
Why should it be okay that a group of people is "legitimised" to act against my consent? How is that progressive? Don't you think it's criminal?
The solution will be outside the box. Not by retorting to old paradigms, old dialectic concepts.
We will need to grow our consciousness and be able to contain the whole spectrum within us.