I found this to be really helpful nostr:nprofile1qy2hwumn8ghj7etyv4hzumn0wd68ytnvv9hxgqgdwaehxw309ahx7uewd3hkcqpqdg6es53r3hys9tk3n7aldgz4lx4ly8qu4zg468zwyl6smuhjjrvsm58xhx . Schopenhauer seemed to have worked out a way of dealing with it.