You didnt give up thats good!
Nostr.how and uselessshit.co are good resources to lean into!
I myself only use custodial solution to receive zaps but to give them i use breez to zap. I only have a small amount of sats in wallet of satoshi as it could just poof disappear one day. So i only let sats stack there for a bit then move them to something i control.
I also use amethyst