But then, she will eventually find out and know you lied through omission.
Discussion
Silent wealth doesn't mean there is deceit at play. Living modestly is not misleading.
Is it lying to be concealed carrying a firearm, say you're carrying and not showcase the firearm?
Living modestly is not misleading, no.
I'm assuming you'd tell her quite early about such a significant aspect of your person, if you want to remain honest.
I don't even see a moral reason to have to disclose the information of wealth in the first place.
I can see the reason to want that disclosed for a Game Theory analysis, but if you feel the need for that then perhaps rethink the choice in potential partner.
You don't "have" to disclose anything.
You cannot make a deep emotional connection with her, if you initially engage under a cloud of mistrust and a fear of losing what you really love (your money).
An argument can be made that an concealing their Wealth is protecting their life's work.
We all exchange our services or the product of our service for other forms of Wealth (i.e. money).
Why can we not go through processes to protect the fruits of our labor, what we exchange a portion of our life to obtain?
Think everyone should have mistrust when dealing with a completely new person, let alone a potential mate. That is why its a process of developing trust.
I am his life's work.
The situation is different when in a sacramental marriage, a committed relationship.
I'm arguing this point for someone who is unsure whether this is the person they will spend their life with, not a sufficiently explored courtship or marriage.
I married him because he approached me as if he were completely sure and I got overwhelmed by his confidence.
That's what it is, to be swept off your feet. The stuff of every romance novel and the tale every happily-married woman will trot out for anyone willing to sit still for long enough to hear it.
Because she knows that she is living the dream.
I'm happy that was what happened in your relationship, I'm not dissuading anyone from having that expectation.
Love is inherently self-sacrificial and romantic love adds the aspects of naivety, optimism, and idealism. It is a hopeful, childlike phenomenon, where you throw all caution to the wind and think "you and me, with nothing, against the world".
These are aspects of the male psyche that wealth erodes.
Let us join hands, darling, I will sweep you up and we shall run off to the hills forever, and spend all day picking berries, talking about God and the world, and making love.