Yea I think it's the messed up incentives for the company running the platform. It's not profitable for them to actually help people find love. I also don't like how it incentivizes the swipe culture either as someone who appreciates genuine human connection and can't stand vapid and shallow mindsets that things like tinder incentivize people towards.

Honestly if I could choose this is one of my first ideas for what to design but the timing would also need to be right to find a market large enough to steal the network effects of those platforms.