the email threads it creates are so bad though
Normie tech, but I'm a huge fan of Discourse. It does require a bit of maintenance but I'm running a bunch of self-hosted instances issues without many issues. It's almost like a modern phpBB + Google Groups replacement. https://www.discourse.org/.
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Really? What exactly don’t you like about it? I don't have much of an issue with it. I guess the header with the user picture in every email is a bit unnecessary, especially for groups where I'm receiving every single post as an email. The main thing is that emails display well on both desktop and mobile across multiple email clients for me, even for heavily formatted posts with things like code excerpts. I can't complain.
Also, I understood nostr:npub180cvv07tjdrrgpa0j7j7tmnyl2yr6yr7l8j4s3evf6u64th6gkwsyjh6w6 as wanting a newsletter, not a mailing list
Yes, that. Thank you.