There are two types of nurture. Mom vibes focus on protecting kids from all sources of harm to enable them to survive in a harsh world. Dad vibes focus on exposing kids to the natural consequences of their actions to enable them to thrive in a harsh world. Both are necessary and good for the long term well being of the child. Their relative importance shifts over time as the child gains autonomy.

Once you grok this dynamic you see it everywhere. It infuses honest political debate across every domain.

Understanding both sides means you can thread the needle when they come into conflict or shift the balance of power when the time is right. Few.