I don't have any say in how other people want their feeds. You show up in my feed. I don't think you are a bot. But each other user can have whatever option about you they want to have.
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I assume the majority of users trying nostr don't want posts from a non spammer hidden because they're "annoying" and get accused of being a bot
Wrong assumption. If they follow people that think you are annoying, they are more likely to agree with the folks they choose to follow than to a random account out there.
No. Devs will probably always think I'm annoying because I refuse to learn to code and just criticize software instead
You probably think I'm annoying for that reason, just without having me muted over it
Users will naturally follow devs but also possibly agree with my criticisms