I think this is where the Gossip Model comes in. Check it out here: https://github.com/mikedilger/gossip 
#Asknostr can nostr relay ban specific user from posting? and if yes, what if all major relays blocked my account and I started my own relay. how would others know about my new relay?
I read https://github.com/nostr-protocol/nostr#how-does-it-solve-the-problems-the-networks-above-cant but I did not understand much
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This is actually cool, and gives me excuse to use desktop client rather than web 😅
I think gossip is broken, anyways I found out about #lume and #yana they both support NIP 65 too!
I had trouble when I first tried it out too. That was a while back and I haven’t had a chance to try it out again yet.
Good to hear you found a couple of other clients tho. This is what #Nostr is about! 🤙