I get what you're saying. I'd rather listen to a podcast or hangout on Nostr, if I wanted to learn/discuss certain topics.
I don't like using the term "irl friends", because I consider the many Nostr anons I interact with you be irl friends. So let's call them my local friends.
My local friends are people I can have great discussions about running a small business, the sports & entertainment business, athletic performance, ect.