Now? 17 and 14… The most recent thing was a discussion about how 4chan is a pretty problematic forum and it’s not healthy to spend too much time there. We’ve had lots of discussions about the way the internet works and how to understand it. But my kid’s mom works at / on Tor, so it’s not like we were going to tightly control / monitor their internet usage. More it’s about conversations and while parenting is hard, being a teenager is hard, the internet and social media hasn’t been the hard part. More it’s been a place where they’ve found connection, meaning, and support.

We’ve moved a lot and discord and games has been a major way in which they’ve been able to keep long term friendships that they would have lost without things like discord.