Any dating app will commodify you and try to package you in parts because there's not enough of you to go around. Even a nostr dating app would be that way.

Actually, the modern world tries to do this to you everywhere, not just dating apps. Connections are spread thin and deeper connections have become more rare/difficult. You seem like a force of nature born to counteract this stuff, so it's good to follow your instincts on where to focus your attention.