i will just append that with a small caveat that i encountered by chance

trying to bump a channel open fee using CPFP

don't do it

my sats are now in limbo, and the channel peer didn't respond to my attempts to contact them and this isn't part of teh protocol, so, really, it was my fault for being an impatient bitch. hard lesson, but i most certainly am not tinkering with channel open txs ever again, no matter how long the ordinals flood to stamp the chain with their dogshit