You can use Lightning Node Connect and not expose your IP publicly
nostr:npub1xnf02f60r9v0e5kty33a404dm79zr7z2eepyrk5gsq3m7pwvsz2sazlpr5 how can you run a home lighting node and keep your ip private without using tor? Tor is just not reliable enough. I can VPN into my home network but the ip of my node is still public.
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Maybe I'm not understanding LNC correctly as this looks like a way to connect to my lightning node. My understanding is if I run a lightning node connected via clear net instead of tor my public ip address is visible along with my node info / channel balance.
Then what you want is a VPS with a dedicated IP and a reverse proxy