Need some help with a #NOSTR relay idea. Let me start at the end goal, and work back from there. Hoping this exists already and I am just unaware…seems very close to filter.nostr.wine

End Goal:

- Have the ability to connect to a single (private / invite only) relay without losing reach or visibility.

Relay Requirements:

- Self-Hosted / VPS

- Ability to curate list of relays to aggregate to/from

- Ability to share access to the relay by adding npub’s (Uncle Jim)

- Spam Filtered

I could see something like this making its way to the Umbrel App Store (for those running it on legit linux servers) to make it dead simple. Then just adding people to a Tailscale network to access it, but I would like something that would also work well with a VPS for uptime and easy backups etc.

Just want to provide this relay for friends and family giving them an optimal experience without all the tinkering of relays.