why do you think i go on and on about the importance of auth??

relays being dumb communist free for alls was never going to expand to anything except yet another gigarelay silo censorship fest so yeah, auth. that's what auth could let you do... just add a feature to the relay where there is a ratelimiter, that some users have exceptions

and if the relay provider isn't handling this, ask them to upgrade to a relay that actually can