Maybe it’s because you’re ’telling them’ most people don’t like being told what to do.

I didn’t wants kids until I had them. If you’d told me before I had them I would have said ‘you don’t know me, you don’t know how I feel about it’.

Rather than telling people that they should do something just tell them how great it makes ‘you’ feel. Even more powerful, if like me, you can tell them ‘I was the same as you and I was wrong’.