I know and agree. It is just so hard with the few people that have always been so close to me and have always been evolving together with me, and then they stopped. Mostly coincided with them marrying and getting children, but then since covid they are like brain dead completely. Just another clowns in a massive clown army. I struggle to shake of the responsibility to help them. Trying to help and fail is very hard. Letting go is also hard.
It is not marriage and children. I am married with children too. But it is like that consumed 99% of their brain, never recovered, and then covid consumed the last remaining 1%. But still have not pushed them over the precipice to finally go look for answers. They are still like happy fed gladiators (slaves). Less and worse fed, but they accept it like some sort of gods punishment and move on.