I just read the lot. There is no paradox but you seem to have admitted that. Bitcoin doesn't incentivise anything, it is just a tool. Replace with the fiat you would have spent.
To summarise why you aren't grasping...save and hold what you don't need to live on. I would go kyc3 and not exchanges like conbase but it's a choice. I use fiat to buy mine, don't you?
Spend sats whenever possible but only on the things you need. You would be buying these things anyway with fiat as you don't have a Bitcoin shop. Use that fiat to buy back the Bitcoin you spent. Bitcoin economics means that over time this will help you save more.
Stop looking at the price. This pushes you into that mindset that Bitcoin is incentvising you to never spend it. You know it is a valuable saving tool. Good enough? The white paper says it is a P2P digital cash. Inferring you should spend it but it is up to you.
Ask yourself this question, why do you hodl forever and never spend? What is it achieving? Are you a collector or are you waiting to spend it? If you are waiting to spend then you are agreeing with me and it is just a time preference but if you never spend it you have achieved nothing.
The question is what will help Bitcoin achieve it's potential? It isn't hodling. It is use. Go to Kenya and Zimbabwe and see. They use it. I use it to bypass draconian sanctions that hurt people, not countries. Money is not a weapon. Bitcoin is freedom as you said but not if you just collect it and don't use it