tbh, these days people are so far in the other direction that people who are assertive get labeled as aggressive/arrogant.

these broad strokes personality types exiat:

- passive

- passive aggressive

* assertive

- aggressive

the only healthy one on the list is assertive and while we all at times put on the other 3 masks, being assertive; meaning saying and doing what you think in a direct manner (this doesn't mean unkind), asserting what you want, and being honest to yourself and others is also the only adult personality in that list