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I have to share something because it's literally so crazy. Almost two years ago, I met a guy on Tinder, and we went on a walk just to meet each other quickly since we lived so close to each other.

The walk ended abruptly because it started raining, but he offered to walk me home since he had an umbrella and I didn't. I am kind of naïve and I thought he was just being nice at the time.

We didn’t hit it off over text, the conversation died down and I didn’t think much of it.

A few days later, I bumped into him on the street I live in and he said: “I was just on my way to you”. I thought he was joking, I laughed it off and went my own way.

A couple weeks later I was coming home and I saw him standing in my building in front of my apartment…

Again, my first thought was that it’s a crazy coincidence 😐

But then he started to ask me if he can come in. Ngl in that moment I got frightened a bit because he is extremely tall and he could have manhandled me very easily. Thankfully I was with my bff so we just told him to leave.

But then the messages started pouring in, and they ranged from romantic to downright offensive

I blocked him, but he still found ways to contact me every few months. He would send recordings of himself playing the guitar, singing some romantic songs, and a few moment later he would call me horrible names.

I was travelling a lot last year but when I came home for the summer my neighbour told me she had seen him waiting in front of your building almost every night. After a few days home, I caught him staring at me from the street. I was pretty freaked out but I didn’t wanna call the police because I just didn’t wanna deal with it.

I avoided going to the balcony for a week but then one night at 1 am I went out to just enjoy the peace and quiet of the night. That’s when something hit me in the face. He threw a piece of paper at me with a message asking me how I felt about him. I lost my cool and started yelling at him. He didn’t say anything, he kind of looked like he was about to cry but then he finally said, "nobody smells like you" which gave me chills.

I called the police, but by the time they got there he already left because he heard me call them and all they could do was write down his name. I traveled for the rest of year, so I wasn't home much, but when I came back, he started messaging me again, saying he couldn't forget me and the way I smell, and that he wished I was pregnant with his child. 😵‍💫

I blocked that number too, but this morning, I got six missed calls from an unknown number, and when I finally answered, it was him.

I don't know what to do. I'm leaving again in nine days, so part of me just wants to let it go and not deal with it, but another part of me wants to call the police again…

Ensure you have adequate personal protection too that you are comfortable using. This can range from mace or deterrents to lethal force depending on your own security stance. It’s always better to get away to public places and let people know where you are and what’s going on, but ultimately you may need to defend yourself if the police or others are unresponsive in a critical situation.

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Omg stop I’m getting more scared now hahahaha I don’t think it’s THAT serious 🥺😭

Being scared is a natural human emotion that prepares us. It’s good to have a little of that feeling in weird situations, but I agree that it should not consume you. I don’t want to scare you further, but from an “outsider opinion”, the details in your OP read like the start to a Netflix doc. Your end goal should be to document everything officially, hope for the best, and prepare for the worst. Then you can go about your life comfortably knowing all bases are covered.