Sorry for the wall of text😂😹, I love discussing this issues because there is a lot of material that is extremely compelling evidence from evulutionary biology to psicology that goes against a lot of what we are being fed (or what we voluntary consume in our genuine desore to make things better)
Discussion
No need to apologize. If you want to discuss certain issues it would be helpful to be more concrete on narratives that you seem to have compelling evidence against.
One would be the idea of "challenging traditional male and female role models"
For example: women being mayority in one field (nurses) Vs men being mayority in other (engineering). Most of the people take this as a proof of how society bias men and women toward "traditional roles" but studies have shown that even babis show differences in prefferences that are sex dependan, even more! Even chimpanzee babies show this, wich is a good way to infer that difference in prefferences are innate, so deeply rooted that our closest relatives have it too. 🤯
A link to the experiment
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2583786/
And this is only one concrete example that I remember from the top of my head but is the rule, not the exception
(Take this as general trends but statistically significant, of course there are particular cases for almost anything)