My theory is that mainstream media and the fashion industry at some point began framing men as weapons. In that sense, if you don't look like a weapon of mass destruction, you won't be recognized by the masses and you won't be successful even inside your own mind. You will be subtly bombarded by propaganda shaming you because you don't follow the "being a weapon" trend.

Never surrender to your own identity and your own preferences. I am not a weapon and I won't base my self-esteem on that. I prefer love over war