These payments usually are given not for philanthropic reasons but because the state department wants to have leverage at a later stage by threatening withdrawal of said payments if the counter party doesn't play along.

If your argument is that the US should stop handing out money entirely, meaning a general retreat of influence and soft power, then I agree with you.

The Taliban, in this case, are doing exactly what your government, according to this woman, should be doing: taking care of their veterans and their families. If your argument is against that, then the videos message is hypocritical.