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I get what you're saying (there's often a gap between how things should work and how they actually play out). But does that mean the best response is to lean into the incentives, or to rethink the system that creates them?

StackinBeets 11mo ago

Here's the thing, women could theoretically elevate themselves so the man's behaviour is not rewarded as much as a relationship. This goes back to accountability. Just be a girl he WANTS to be around and he'll stick around. Women train men to do the exact things that women consider bad to them.

I tested all this out, if I behave like an absolute douchebag, women are more attracted to me. I absolutely despise this fact myself but this is women's nature apparently. I don't feel good about it either. But men lack love in their love, and we do not get it by being a good guy. Nature is cruel.

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Scarlett 11mo ago

I see where you're coming from, but the idea that women are naturally drawn to bad behavior isn’t as universal as it seems.

Studies suggest that while some women may be attracted to dominant traits in certain situations, long-term relationship preferences overwhelmingly favor respect, trustworthiness, and emotional security (ResearchGate -https://www.researchgate.net/publication/225190811_Young_Women%27s_Dating_Behavior_WhyWhy_Not_Date_a_Nice_Guy).

Another study found that over 70% of women aged 18-35 prioritize finding a partner who respects them for their choices (Economic Times- https://economictimes.indiatimes.com/magazines/panache/respect-independence-loyalty-set-the-tone-in-relationships-for-new-age-couples/articleshow/66475528.cms?utm_source=chatgpt.com&from=mdr).

If disrespectful behavior gets rewarded, maybe it’s more about who someone is choosing to attract rather than all women being wired that way?

StackinBeets 11mo ago

That's where you lose me, with those "studies". I've done my own studies as a bitcoiner who's put in the work and time to understand it, just as I did with women and relationships.

The same people show you studies that inflation isn't actually bad for you. I know what's bad for me, and good for me.

And no, not *all* women are wired that way, it's a generalisation that's applicable in most cases.

Sandor Clegane 11mo ago

If you keep selecting for something long enough you'll get more of it...

Good luck, half of our bell curve are dribbling idiots only interested in the right now. 😂

Scarlett 11mo ago

You're right that whatever a society consistently rewards, it gets more of. If we prioritize short-term gratification over long-term thinking, we shouldn’t be surprised when critical thinking declines.

But the bell curve works both ways, while some chase the immediate, others are building, questioning, and opting out of the noise. The real challenge isn’t just observing the trend, but deciding which side of it we contribute to."

Sandor Clegane 11mo ago

Heh, I'm content to let the majority destroy themselves so the survivors have to run the gauntlet & come out the other side fitter...

Sandor Clegane 11mo ago

Stupid breeds faster & prolifically, we need nature to do the heavy lifting on this one.

Scarlett 11mo ago

I get the idea of natural selection, but societies aren’t built on just letting people fail, we progress by lifting each other up, not just waiting for collapse. The real question is, do we want to live in a world that only rewards survival, or one that also values wisdom and growth?

Sandor Clegane 11mo ago

I don't believe most humans are capable of it without natures feedback, easy times ruin them.

Sandor Clegane 11mo ago

Without being periodically knocked back down the species would be a write off...

Scarlett 11mo ago

I get your skepticism, some studies are definitely flawed or biased, and blindly trusting them isn’t the way to go. But just like in Bitcoin, where we verify instead of trusting, we can apply the same principle to understanding human behavior.

Relying only on personal experience is limiting because our own circles and interactions don’t represent the full picture. Generalizations might seem to apply in 'most cases,' but that depends on where and how you're looking. Just like in Bitcoin, the key is digging deeper, questioning sources, and being open to perspectives beyond our own.

StackinBeets 11mo ago

It's not just my personal experience. I listened to many others that experienced the same. Anyway, I'm gonna go to the forest with my kid now (surprised? 😄) have a nice day.

Scarlett 11mo ago

Fair enough, it’s not just about one experience but the patterns you see around you. Still, I think there’s always more to the picture than what we hear in certain circles. Either way, enjoy the forest with your kid! Sounds like a great way to disconnect. 😄