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I DELETED Facebook! But it was hard, not because of Facebook, but because of the memories. 😔

My Facebook was deactivated by the end of 2019. Now, I have finally DELETED it along with my Messenger. 🗑️

When I was moving my data into my storage, I had to review photos 📸 that dated back to the time I created my Facebook account. It was rough. 😬😮‍💨

I realised how much I have grown, how I have changed, and how many silly lapses in judgement I had.

It was a "digital public diary" of myself. Reviewing it and reminiscing about those times made me ask:

"Was I like that? Why did I post that? Why did I say that? To whose benefit?" 🤔

My younger self was so immature, very much an attention seeker, and very tactless, always seeking validation—"come look at me." It was hard to watch at first. I went to check my friend list one last time and realised I barely have one thing in common with them. I could no longer relate to them. Only a handful of them I stay in touch with. It is neither good nor bad. It only means I have learned my lessons, and I continue to do so. I have evolved, as has my outlook, my worldview, and how I value true connection. 🤝🌱

I'd never say it will be pitch perfect from now on, that there will be no more mistakes or foolishness. I'd say I may have more of it because I have learned to take bigger risks than my younger self. I take life as it comes and do my utmost for whatever comes my way. I live it as if it is my last so I can appreciate it even more. 🙏👌

In fact, my new chapter has only begun, and I am excited to find this tribe and have the privilege to share this journey with you. 🤗

If you made it this far, thank you for your time, and see you around. ❤️🫂

#yakihonne #wherostr #reflection #selfreflection #youngerself #lifelessons #lifecoach #growthteacher #nostr

Cheers,

M💋

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Jetty Nakamoto 1y ago

Congrats 👏!! This must have been super hard to do. I remember having mustered the courage to go through with it and my dad in 2019 discouraged me from doing so. Although I rarely use FB, I didn't delete it because he said not to. He has now passed away and it's even harder to delete it now. The delete action isn't hard, I'm just making sure that when I do it, it was obvious because it was the right thing to do and I'm super convinced the memories live forever inside of me. Good God It felt so good to read this post. Thank you.

Lady Mae - Growth Teacher 1y ago

Sorry about your dad's passing. Like you said, memories will stay with you. I was hesitant at first because I was attached to the memories. I reliased that I can keep the photos and the memories. My motivations are:

1.) My data. Leaving it on Facebook would mean someone else is capitalising on my data even though I was not using it. It does not sit well with me.

2.)Setting an example. I have nieces and nephews, they are addicted to FB. So if I make a point, I need to show it by action. My family is in the Philippines. Their way of contacting me is through FB Messenger. When I deleted it. It forces them to use other apps like Simplex.

3.) I have out grown Meta and Mark Zuckerberg! Want nothing from his app.

In short, the reasons for deleting it must be important for you. Otherwise, you will waver when you review the photos and face the memories. It must be your courage — the reasons. ☺️

Jetty Nakamoto 1y ago

Oh wow I really love all your reasons. I also love the Simplex approach because you can just post it on FB for a while to give time for folks (who want to keep in touch with you) to adjust smoothly and do so within a reasonable timeframe, while giving the finger to Zuckerberg because you still have to approve whoever is trying to connect with you.

Other apps are more difficult in that area IMO. So yeah I like this approach, I haven't thought about it that way I have to admit.

Lady Mae - Growth Teacher 1y ago

love it when you say finger to Zuckerberg 😂 made me burst LOL

So pleased it gives something to think about and see you around? 👌☺️

Jetty Nakamoto 1y ago

Oh you bet. See you around! 💯😎

Hodl Harry 1y ago

Sometimes we have to sacrifice something old to get something new. I lost all my pics on FB, but instead i gained new friends and new memories 💜

Lady Mae - Growth Teacher 1y ago

So true and 💯 spot on. I am sure it will stay with you in memory and neither digital nor physical photo can replace that. 🫂

Nina 1y ago

Hi Mae,

Respect! It takes a lot of consistent action to get the family used to a different messenger.

Do you also have a business account? Have you also deleted it?

I never really liked FB.

I wonder if it's necessary for business. Because as an entrepreneur you have to go where you can find potential customers.

May I ask how you handle that?

Lg Nina

Lady Mae - Growth Teacher 1y ago

thank you for your kind words nostr:nprofile1qqsp53zwahne3z8qqd24hvlqv3crmt4wqj7hwsa776artu9n4qzm2yspzemhxue69uhkummnw3ex2mrfw3jhxtn0wfnj7qg4waehxw309amk7apwva5hy6twduhx7un89uq3jamnwvaz7tmjv4kxz7fwwdhx7un59eek7cmfv9kz749s49w! 🫂

Yes, family was a bit confused but got there in the end. ☺️

Business wise, I did have a business page and deleted it. All gone. I never like setting it up in the first place. I created it because it was what everyone was doing. I realised later that by staying in FB/Meta I am supporting it and condoning it. One last straw from me was my business page, I was banned because I made a mistake on my page. I think it waa something to do with my identity. I was very upset about it. But in hindsight, it gave me the drive to look elsewhere. 👌

Right now, I am heavily active on here. I intend to keep it this way. I do have account in Tiktok and Youtube but hardly use it atm. I may use it to drive traffic here or directly to my website. I am re-evaluating the latter. I intend to use #nostr for it. 💯

If you prefer a chat about this journey over hivetalk — happy to do so. ☺️❤️

See you around! ✌️