Getting friends 2 join is harder than I thought it would be, but I’m trying. 🤍
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Same here. I feel like maybe since I am so into this stuff that there is just no room for excitement in my immediate friend orbit? It baffles my mind because Nostr seems like the coolest thing since the wheel!
they all generally have one of two reactions:
-I'm busy enough with the thing I'm on now
-I don't want to learn a new thing
-I'm scared of a new thing
-Why do I need a new thing?
Oh wait that's four.
But then it cycles back to "no," and nothing happens.
I’m surprised more ppl who were disappointed in the outcome of Twitter haven’t been looking for a new thing. I’m hoping it gets more mainstream soon. But I love the little community it is now as well.
you may or may not be surprised how hard it is to break people out of bad habits.
I quit faceborg in march of 2022, making my deletion date april 1st (joke's on them),
before that I had quit twitter in 2010, after having been on for three years in "the early days."
i've been on every major network and many minor ones since 2001, starting with livejournal right around then. myspace, friendster, some that i don't even remember the name of but remember what it looked like, tribe.net, never orkutt, a few others - it's almost always the same general formula, adoption curve, and so on.
it's just that in recent years, people have become much dumber sadly than ever before, and i don't mean that in a rude way. just what the observations are.
they mostly lack basic computer skills, but that's only a part of the problem. :)
I spent a few thousand hours putting together a social network between 2017 and 2021, and finally nuked it in 2021. deleting that thing felt really really good. only 300 people joined. but i learned alot, from the experience. it was running first at (www.populus.space) and then later at (www.mytribes.net) :) Oh well. 😁
My point though - if there was a short one - is people will do what lends to their biology, people love using things that make them feel good, like the dopamine problem with "so and so liked your tweet," and "so and so liked your post" the problem however is only exascerbated in twitter which looks like a sea of absolute garbage, so it magnifies that "like" and leads to "awe, they saw my post and liked it in this giant cesspool of garbage! i must be special." so that and the algorithm being relentless in what it suggests are nearly drug like problems, for a great many people. most do not understand the psychology of addiction, of which and therein sites like that rely upon - these neurocognitive weaknesses in most people, to keep them hooked in and engaged.
breaking that pattern, is the hard part, for most people.
they first need to be made aware of it,
then at exactly the right time they need to be told that they're okay, and still special, and not defecit,
and at some point later, when they're done being mad and depressed, they can possibly join somewhere else.
others may jump ship right away, but those tend to be self actualized individuals who have a much higher rate of critical thinking skills and general cognition/awareness.
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