My point is more that people are underestimating how much money goes into getting married. Taking a portion of that and handing it over in Bitcoin (rather than a big rock in the ring, for instance) would maybe be more sensible.
There's a lot of "wealth signaling" that doesn't contribute to lasting wealth.
I’m so ok with eloping and putting money towards areas to help build a life with your spouse. My partner doesn’t have to spend 2 months salary on a ring. I’d rather make those decisions together. Honestly I’ve seen too many people go almost crazy with stress planning a wedding. I’d rather build and plan for a life than focus on one day.
Yeah, same.
On the other hand, I think a lot of this spending serves some concrete purpose, like a dowry-effect. It shows what the bride is worth, basically, and that the groom isn't a pauper.
I think this is why my husband resisted my "let's just have a chili cookout in the backyard" idea. I sometimes appear so poor that it attracts men who think I'm unloved and being neglected.
I’ve had men tell me that they felt like the engagement ring is more of a signal to other men. I’ve seen engagement rings I wouldn’t wear swimming cause you’d just sink right to the bottom.
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Yeah. I originally said I didn't need one and he was like nope, you're getting one.
And it did have a tangible, immediate effect on other men.
I didn't even realize how many men were interested until I had the ring on and they were like, Darn, too slow.
Fr, bro? 😄🤷♀️
But my husband realized it.
I don't pick up on a lot of stuff.
