i have a friend, a close friend for years, who has always been the reliable, humble one. always grounded, always 'gets it'.

he worked for many years as the person who found all the mistakes in your code, at a very well known company, on probably their most important project.

not too long ago, he left that place and started working for a game company. slowly, since that happened, his vibe has become... arrogant, smug, quick to dismiss, kind of know it all. to the point that i am getting concerned, and kind of dont want to talk to him much.

the thought of not talking to him bothers me. so im praying and thinking through how to approach this. i dont want to come off as if im attacking him. but he is too important to me to just not talk to him.

i suppose i need to release the outcome. and go in.

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Will pray that he receives your words in the spirit they’re given.

That's tough, but, if you frame it as coming from a place of love and concern, then... If he's receptive, cool. If not, you did what you can.

Based on your description of your friend before he will understand and be grateful

Not sure this will help, but the friend who once said to me, "you know that whiny thing you do?" is one of my most beloved

hmm. my default would be something like.

bro. your being a douchey bitch. what's the deal?

dyu need a hug? dyu need some compliments? slap upside the head? what? I got u bruh. jus please pleas tell me why you are being a douchey bitch so we can heal you. I love u man. its hard seeing you like this.

etc. basically clown his ass into shape.

we may have different kinda frens tho