Ruling out that stuff is not being realistic, it’s being a tyrant to yourself, and no one who has the patience to tolerate me is doomed.

Stop being a dick to yourself. I, a complete stranger, talk to you every day. Not because of how you look, or anything. Just because I think you’re solid. Take that as you may but you’re super fuckin hard on yourself bro and I know you think it’s being “realistic” but maybe you’re just sortve treating yourself in a way you wouldn’t want me to treat myself.