Not sure I understand what you are saying/implying here? I think I get what you mean but a few more sentences about what you mean would add clarity (for me).
Of course you’ll be disrespected and cheated on — you’re trying to serve her instead of leading her.
Discussion
Man's role is to lead his woman. She looks up to him and respects him. But when he starts thinking about pleasing her instead, she loses respect and without it the relationship fails.