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The only person responsible for your emotions is you

Probably the greatest lesson being a parent has given me so far. The fact your toddler made you angry and swear is not their fault, ultimately it’s yours

The hard part: actually living this

There is no one else to blame

Interestingly, when you start taking this same approach in other area of your life, it reveals others who do not abide by this. They blame you for their emotions.

Life hack

Only you can control yourself

Brisket 9mo ago

It's sounds like Jake Woodhouse's mind thinks it's controls Jake Woodhouse's body.

Your mind doesn't have direct control over your emotions, thoughts or actions. They all originate from your mind's beliefs. Free will is the ability to choose your beliefs, to make & break agreements.

Try not to judge yourself. No emotion is bad & you shouldn't try to deny or suppress your feelings. Why did you feel the way that you did? What emotional bruise was pressed?

All of it can be traced back to unarticulated (unconscious) beliefs which you form in an attempt to avoid experiencing pain. Become aware of the beliefs & observe your thoughts, feelings & actions shift. Your feelings, thoughts & actions point to those beliefs.

Accept responsibilty for everything in your reality. On some level, you choose it all.

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Jake Woodhouse 9mo ago

Great reply. Thanks. Huge discussion in some ways

In this specific scenario, something factual that was delivered to a group of people, was received very poorly by them, via a WhatsApp group, in spite of being asked to remove themselves from the topic (boundaries around kids and parenting requests eg no screens no kissing)

It’s absolutely ok to show emotion. It should be absolutely ok to share it. It should be absolutely ok to be yourself

What happened is others were triggered, and the situation blew up into something much bigger

All the triggers meant people projected their emotions on others

Hence it’s important to take accountability to our own emotions. No one can manage them accept yourself. Recognise them. Allow them.

If we tried to live life always worrying about other peoples emotions we would be burnt out in weeks

Brisket 9mo ago

Take nothing personally, it's more about them than you.

You're not responsible for how others react but it shows you an awful lot about what they believe. Try not to judge them for it.

Your reaction, whether you express it or or not, can point to beliefs that you're not aware of. Your hidden beliefs like to remain hidden though,

I suspect these reactions beyond the first 8-10 secs is what nostr:nprofile1qqsxunegvm2wjttf52z9lktkfrf8dkese8fv0j8sdd7g6dd95ahh52gprpmhxw309ucnqdpwxger2t3jxvmjuwfh8gmnqvpsqyt8wumn8ghj7etyv4hzumn0wd68ytnvv9hxgtcppamhxue69uhks6tswd68ytnr0gg6tsc6 is referring to as hamster wheels. He'd make an excellent guest to flesh this discussion out with.

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Jake Woodhouse 9mo ago

Yeah I’ll invite Rob on. Great idea

He’s joined before and I loved learning from him

RobBrinded 9mo ago

👀

Jake Woodhouse 9mo ago

Boom. Booked in! Chat soon Rob

RobBrinded 9mo ago

booked 🫶