for boys, as soon as they can secure a high quality woman, lock it down, put the boy away and step into manhood/fatherhood
Discussion
Do you remember yourself in your ealy 20s ? Where you mature enough to get married.
I think a man needs to secure financial stability before getting married too
I think framing the issue in that question misunderstands how we develop.
Brian Harrington did a video awhile back where he talked about some research they did with how many “bytes” of data the brain handles.
TLDR: we only have so much attention and energy, and when we go into marriage, especially with kids, that forces most all of our attention of real grown up shit.
We become responsible through doing it.
This aligns with all the data showing new fathers are by far the most productive people out there.
Dad brain is real.
Nothing motivates and your body psyiologicslly than parenthood.
I think the “financial stability” line of thought just excuses inaction and clinging to a life free of responsibilty, and this a less meaningful life
I like your arguments.
My big problem with marrying too young is not knowing what you want in a spouse.
Though this can be thought.
yeah, which is why parents play such an important part in raising their children to become adults.
it’s a tough road to go on your own as a kid, having to figure it out all on your own, trial and error.
not sure if i would rather have no guidance and learn only through experiecne, or bad guidance but someone in my life. almost sounds like no guidance is preferable to bad guidance 🤷♂️
i put my money on a poor young couple, but a good man and good woman, being better off at 50 than a financially well off couple that fuxked around until they were 35 to start a family
I put my money on a 30M-26F couple with some financial stability versus a poor young couple 23M-21F
perhaps there is a goldilocks sweet spot
but there are other 2nd and 3rd order effects by of delaying launch.
by spreading out generations, we get less overlap. knowing your great grandparent from 0-7 is completely different that knowing them from 0-14, or more.
like how the roman’s made armor out of laminating papyrus, its the tight layers that provide strength, overlapping generations, getting most exposure to all that elder wisdom should not be brushed off as a meh opportunity. especially when we think of that as a cultural phenomenon.
interesting thinking about “when” is best, but I know we are in complete agreement on the what and why. 🫡