Read the note I posted, it gives details on what to do. If you read the descriptions in the relay settings page it is pretty easy to figure out I found personally.
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Yes, i got to the point of reading those descriptions but it feels a bit strange. Perhaps I should go to nostr.wine and see if they have advice on it, since I had the impression that their service was my principal "access point", I already used them for inbox as well as search, but didn't realize there were several other functions to consider. I'll try to investigate more. Thanks.