We all deal with it how it best suits us. And thats how we should. I am as much as you are I dont do revenge, I can still help but dont expect any thank you or whatsoever I helped for my benefit of feeling good about it and not for anyones thanks, but if they dont care for something and that is my side of the story I surely dont care of theirs either. If you have to represent a story in front of judges of 5 psychiatrist and 2 regular people. They will all know how to recognise a narcissist. They cant win in crowds that is why they find victims. But there is a way to be with them. Never allow yourself to be their victim be their sparing partners. Psychologically. You sharpen your sense and they enjoy the game. Ive grown up with heavy different types and forms of narcissists both female and male ones. Friends, family, partners... you just need to know how with them for the benefit of both, because in everything they do they seek benefit...and if you see some actual positive sides in their narcisism. They are very successful people at the end when you look at them. The biggest business people are narcissist, leaders and people of position.I learn a lot and developed my broader understanding of humanity by understanding and knowing how to deal with them... There're people like me who can co exist with them peacefully... lol ... but I get you... some people need to be left a fuck alone by them. We aint all the same. 🤷‍♀️