My cousin’s daughter graduated from HS. She’s attending a premier D1 university in the fall. Guests of the grad party were asked to give her advice. Here’s mine:
Only do what you’re willing to accept the consequences for. It’s your life, live it.
Her mom is pissed and thinks it was bad advice. What do you think?
That is perfect advice! For me as a midforty invasive cardiologist it means to get up at least 4-5 nights a month…after all the studying to get here…it is a wonderful job, but other decision would have made my live a lot easier…
Seems to me like a subtle way to get an 18 year old to think about consequences without telling her to think about consequences. Thumbs up
Depends on the kid, out of my three I'd only tell that to one, maybe two but definitely not one :-)
Interesting… I don’t have kids yet so I’m not fully aware of the nuance.
What about that child would keep them from receiving the advice?
Her mom is weak AF. This is great advice.
Truth hurts sometimes, but the pain will turn to pleasure in due time.🤙🏻💜🧡⚡️
🫱🏽🫲🏻agreed.
Is she bitcoiner already? If not I'd give different advice.
Study #bitcoin.
Not yet but I’m already on it. I sent her a copy of the book I wrote… hopefully she’ll read it.
That’s good advice. Except at 18 you’re probably going to think you’re ok with some of the consequences only to later find out you we’re definitely not.
Sounds like the one wanna dictate?
Good advice IMO
Parent might see it as giving the (graduated young adult) permission to rely on the parents for getting out of consequences. Parent is also in the “this person’s development is proof of your parenting. If you don’t trust them handling consequences, you don’t or didn’t trust your parenting in moments.”
That’s a realization some parents may not realize they have, yet render to others.
Allowing the child to create and accept boundaries is a sign of “parenting gone well.” From that response, it’s bad advice simply because it reflects on the parenting, not the child (in their eyes).
Good point. I hadn’t thought about it from that perspective. Makes a ton of sense.
