It takes sacrifice to be a man.

As husbands, men rarely want to sacrifice their inner child's need for feminine affection in order to regard their wife with duty and leadership. We'd rather deceive ourselves, nesting in our wife's motherly warmth, providing resources but absent in providing order and setting the home's standard to life.

To me, the entire #MasculineFrame movement is a remembering of the sacrifice a man must make, the sacrifice of his childlike needs, in order to develop the constitution to lead wife and children.

We all know that the hippie parents who make friends with their kids, using them to circumvent their own responsibility under the guise of liberating them, are dangerously selfish.

Is a man who capitulates his role to lead, making his wife his "best friend" above all else, any different? In both cases, deep resentment towards those in roles of responsibility will develop.

Do your job as a man, first. Create a safe space for woman and child. Let them invite you in. Don't nest there. Don't monopolize the childlike spirit. It's for them, not you.