honestly, I do NOT want to have to deal with all his baby mamas and potentially having to coparent multiple infant children who are not my infant children. that is not to say that I would not adore them, but that I just don't want my child to be like...another brick in the wall, ya know? I mean, one or two, ok that's reasonable. grown up children are also a different thing altogether cause they have lives and are generally just more independent.

plus, the baby mamas will always be coming around moping because that's the man they thought they'd marry or they want money. and the only compromise is to, like, live really close or in some sort of weird compound situation, which means they'll feel bad if I'm like, "we are making a baby can u leave us alone?" then I'll be looked at like an evil witch who won't just share her husband or be in a proper polycule...ugh. complicated polygamy shit.