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I have to share something because it's literally so crazy. Almost two years ago, I met a guy on Tinder, and we went on a walk just to meet each other quickly since we lived so close to each other.

The walk ended abruptly because it started raining, but he offered to walk me home since he had an umbrella and I didn't. I am kind of naïve and I thought he was just being nice at the time.

We didn’t hit it off over text, the conversation died down and I didn’t think much of it.

A few days later, I bumped into him on the street I live in and he said: “I was just on my way to you”. I thought he was joking, I laughed it off and went my own way.

A couple weeks later I was coming home and I saw him standing in my building in front of my apartment…

Again, my first thought was that it’s a crazy coincidence 😐

But then he started to ask me if he can come in. Ngl in that moment I got frightened a bit because he is extremely tall and he could have manhandled me very easily. Thankfully I was with my bff so we just told him to leave.

But then the messages started pouring in, and they ranged from romantic to downright offensive

I blocked him, but he still found ways to contact me every few months. He would send recordings of himself playing the guitar, singing some romantic songs, and a few moment later he would call me horrible names.

I was travelling a lot last year but when I came home for the summer my neighbour told me she had seen him waiting in front of your building almost every night. After a few days home, I caught him staring at me from the street. I was pretty freaked out but I didn’t wanna call the police because I just didn’t wanna deal with it.

I avoided going to the balcony for a week but then one night at 1 am I went out to just enjoy the peace and quiet of the night. That’s when something hit me in the face. He threw a piece of paper at me with a message asking me how I felt about him. I lost my cool and started yelling at him. He didn’t say anything, he kind of looked like he was about to cry but then he finally said, "nobody smells like you" which gave me chills.

I called the police, but by the time they got there he already left because he heard me call them and all they could do was write down his name. I traveled for the rest of year, so I wasn't home much, but when I came back, he started messaging me again, saying he couldn't forget me and the way I smell, and that he wished I was pregnant with his child. 😵‍💫

I blocked that number too, but this morning, I got six missed calls from an unknown number, and when I finally answered, it was him.

I don't know what to do. I'm leaving again in nine days, so part of me just wants to let it go and not deal with it, but another part of me wants to call the police again…

wow........

thats really awful.

and to be very clear, this is the kind of person stereotypically that becomes violent (and doesn't leave any survivors.)

I'm saying this out of respect because you're better to have considered it than not.

Call the police, let them deal with it, and in the meantime take a nice long vacation road trip (2-3 weeks) , go see a friend far away and check out the cool stuff on the way there, go camping for a few days at a time, etc, then before you go home call the fuzz and see if they had anything weird going on there while you were out of town, and go from there.

In the meantime, get a tazer or some pepper spray, (if that then buy 2) one to test and then the other to carry. no knives, they can be used against you too easily. tazer will stun on the smallest instant of contact then you just bear and hold it down and push it into them, until they start shaking and are lying on the ground then you can safely let up and walk/run away. they are not coordinated at that point and cant run after you, just get a 10-30 foot lead and then run.

anyhow, just some time tested ideas. stay safe and yeah take care of that, don't ignore it. men like this are absolutely psychopaths, and by the sounds of it you found a real nasty one. heed the warnings in this message. don't ignore it. there's no shame in this, the guy went entirely bannas, and you didnt do anything other than exist.

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Damn, thank you for taking the time to write all this 🌸💖✨