Men want to have sex on their terms and women want to have sex on other terms. For example with Epstein Island or PDiddy parties you have women and men trying to get what they want, though it is portrayed as if men are the aggressors and women the victims. You can see with OnlyFans how many women want to sell themselves.

I find it still quite brutal though. Kind of like slaughtering an animal. Necessary and part of life but still grisly.